So, how good is your inner frog detector?

November 13, 2008

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Kaycee Jane finds SFU’s two-year Executive MBA program challenging. But she found time to self-publish a book designed to help girls assess their romantic relationships, called Frog or Prince? The Smart Girl’s Guide to Boyfriends.

"My intention is to help young women make better choices," says Jane, a single mom who started writing the book five years ago when her 15-year-old daughter began dating. "I saw my daughter holding the hand of a frog."

The book follows the relationships of four fictional women while discussing needs, consequences and choices in relationships. "I take these needs and show how to build a bar a guy has to jump over to get into your life in a serious way," says Jane, a former vice-president with a national telecommunications firm. "When you know better, you do better."

The book includes tools such as the Frog/Prince list, a framework that helps readers see and feel the good and bad in a relationship. Or, as Jane explains, "to understand how much of each our guy brings to the relationship. It closes the gaps between what you hope and want to believe, and what is," she adds. "When you are aware of what you deserve, you start to make a lot of better choices."

Jane quit her high-powered executive job four years ago when she noticed her daughter didn’t understand how relationships work. "She didn’t know why we get into them, how to get out of them or what life with a frog looks and feels like and what life with a prince can be," says Jane.

"Here I was, running around making companies better, faster and stronger and my beautiful little creature didn’t have those skills."

The book was Jane’s solution—a way to communicate without confrontation. Now, she wants to share it with all young women. She also wants her career back, now that her daughter has grown up. "Any woman who jumps out of the workforce knows when you come back in there are some severe consequence—your skills are out-of-date. That’s why I decided to take the Executive MBA."


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